Are you as tired of Change Your Life sales pitches as I am?! It’s like insurance quotes – you ask for one and ten appear in your inbox.
And they all have such tempting subjects – “5 Ways to Improve Your Life TODAY” and “Candice, this free ebook will solve all your problems”. After you’ve read/watched more than one of these, you start to notice a pattern.
Down-in-the-dumps personal story about Sally Everyday or Tommy NiceGuy who had tons of debt and tried lots of self-improvement methods with no luck. Until one day they magically happen upon a miracle cure that changes their awful lives for good! Another 20 – 40 minutes of relatable “I was tired of working so hard and getting nowhere” and “rich people seemed to know something I didn’t”. But they are generously willing to share their valuable secret so that you too can settle your mortgage, drive around in a sports car and travel the world. You could pay thousands for this kind of advice, but if you act now –
You know how that story ends.
My question is, if these people are swimming in cash, then why don’t they just give you the secret? I tell you why – because they wouldn’t be getting rich off thousands of hopeful people who are already in debt up to their eyeballs.
So I call BULLSHIT.
Certainly there are people who know what they are talking about and do have helpful courses. Ramit Sethi for example has promised to have better free information than a lot of paid-for advice.
But as for the rest – shame on you. It’s like promising food to the starving and demanding to be paid in steaks. Or politicians who hand out free shirts and promise change but when they are elected they are as neglectful as ever.
Yes it is horrible to be skeptical in a world full of hope and possibilities, but you only have to watch one YouTube clip on Photoshopping to learn about some of the crap that is served to us every day. Made-up statistics, fake testimonials and hot Russian women who want to date YOU.. and all this before you even leave the house in the morning.
Back to promises from fake gurus: don’t get me wrong, true self-development is one of my favourite subjects. But as with everything, there is good information and there is misinformation.
“Successful People Do These 10 Things Before 7am”, “Do you have the characteristics of a millionaire?” – I’ll tell you what these people aren’t doing – wasting their time reading these stupid articles. All these do is reinforce the ‘us versus them’ lie.
Don’t buy into that nonsense, literally or figuratively. I read a powerful (free) ebook this morning that nailed it on the head. This guy says that he doesn’t read self-help books because they imply that there is something wrong with us and we need to change.
You know what needs to change? These feelings we have of not being good enough, and that successful people are inherently different to us. This is self-defeating bullshit. And no, I don’t mean go around berating yourself for every negative thought you have. That’s like smacking a child who is crying because you just smacked them. It’s just mind stuff. As Eckhart Tolle advocates, just watch these thoughts as they go by. Don’t judge, label or try stop them. You may as well try to change the direction of the wind by waving your hands around.
Pot-of-gold promises aren’t going away any time soon. As long as there are people who want money and others that have money, this industry will stay alive.
If you’re looking for resources that aren’t a crock of bull, I’ll be uploading a list of good reading as soon as I find an appropriate widget.
May the advice you receive always be free and sound x
PS: If I ever find out how to get rich without trying, I’ll let y’all know for free.
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